Well, thinking thinker is back to UK. Hence, there is reduction in number of posts on the blog. I will post more as more will happen, as at the moment except for work nothing is happening.
After a year’s gap it feels like I never left UK, it is all the same
Monday, February 26, 2007
Wednesday, January 31, 2007
Friends - II
The comment:
Thinker, Good, though provoking post. I am not sure which of the affected parties you feel yourself as representing, if at all. But I am afraid, I must disgree with quite a few things here.
-- Friends are somebody you can be cool with.
o Friends are people with whom you can be what you want to be - at any given time - cool, moody, playful, argumentative, sad, happy. You do not have the right to hurt your friends, or be abusive to them. If you can be yourself without doing so, it should be alright.
-- There are no expectations, no hard feelings etc.
o There should definitely be no hard feelings, specially about petty matters like not returning a call or mail. But you can, and should have, expectations. If you do not have any expectations, you cannot really care about a person. Of course, you should not have unrealistic expectations, which are totally selfish.
-- What happens when a friend always dumps all the negativities on you
o Your friend is probably suffering from some problem - which are hogging all his or her concious mind. You can try to help your friend. But if this becomes a constant habit, you should not also feel obliged to take it all. Whenever obligation comes into picture, genuine concern goes away. One should be true to his or her friends, but the ultimate responsibility of a person is to be true to self.
-- Isn’t friends supposed to be cool – who have moderate or no expectations? Understand that there may be better things happening in your life, keeping you occupied?
o As I said, I think that friends should have expectations from each other. A total lack of it, to me, represents the end of affection between friends, a loss of the camerediere they once shared. At times there may be things in your life that will keep you completely occupied for some time. Friends should of course understand that, and should not feel dejected. But on the other hand, if you have some happy event in your life, you should make your friends feel a part of your happiness.
I think I should stop here, though there still are a lot of things to say on this topic.
PS: Did I do too much of preaching ?
The Reply:
No this is not too much of preaching.See in friendship there has to be some sort of attachement. But, excess of it spoils the show. Excess of anything is bad.
Well the point is, that friends should not feel dejected. What matters is, that you are there for your friend and your friend is there for you when needed; this includes happy times and sad times both.
Thinker, Good, though provoking post. I am not sure which of the affected parties you feel yourself as representing, if at all. But I am afraid, I must disgree with quite a few things here.
-- Friends are somebody you can be cool with.
o Friends are people with whom you can be what you want to be - at any given time - cool, moody, playful, argumentative, sad, happy. You do not have the right to hurt your friends, or be abusive to them. If you can be yourself without doing so, it should be alright.
-- There are no expectations, no hard feelings etc.
o There should definitely be no hard feelings, specially about petty matters like not returning a call or mail. But you can, and should have, expectations. If you do not have any expectations, you cannot really care about a person. Of course, you should not have unrealistic expectations, which are totally selfish.
-- What happens when a friend always dumps all the negativities on you
o Your friend is probably suffering from some problem - which are hogging all his or her concious mind. You can try to help your friend. But if this becomes a constant habit, you should not also feel obliged to take it all. Whenever obligation comes into picture, genuine concern goes away. One should be true to his or her friends, but the ultimate responsibility of a person is to be true to self.
-- Isn’t friends supposed to be cool – who have moderate or no expectations? Understand that there may be better things happening in your life, keeping you occupied?
o As I said, I think that friends should have expectations from each other. A total lack of it, to me, represents the end of affection between friends, a loss of the camerediere they once shared. At times there may be things in your life that will keep you completely occupied for some time. Friends should of course understand that, and should not feel dejected. But on the other hand, if you have some happy event in your life, you should make your friends feel a part of your happiness.
I think I should stop here, though there still are a lot of things to say on this topic.
PS: Did I do too much of preaching ?
The Reply:
No this is not too much of preaching.See in friendship there has to be some sort of attachement. But, excess of it spoils the show. Excess of anything is bad.
Well the point is, that friends should not feel dejected. What matters is, that you are there for your friend and your friend is there for you when needed; this includes happy times and sad times both.
Tuesday, January 30, 2007
Big Fat Indian Wedding
Who said weddings are simple affair?
Its no simple task especially if it is a Punjabi wedding :-), we all know what all goes around and comes back in a Punjabi wedding.
Well, being at the centre stage of a wedding that starts this month and will continue till November, 07. I am already getting the jitters and the shocks and everything else that comes along and frankly it is no easy task – with so many people involved, with their egos, mood swings, influence etc.
Will keep you all posted with any further developments.
:-)
Its no simple task especially if it is a Punjabi wedding :-), we all know what all goes around and comes back in a Punjabi wedding.
Well, being at the centre stage of a wedding that starts this month and will continue till November, 07. I am already getting the jitters and the shocks and everything else that comes along and frankly it is no easy task – with so many people involved, with their egos, mood swings, influence etc.
Will keep you all posted with any further developments.
:-)
Friends
Some random thinking related to friends.
Friends are somebody you can be cool with.
There are no expectations, no hard feelings etc.
But, what happens when a friend always dumps all the negativities on you?
What happens when friend forgets to react to good things happening to you and is only occupied with his/her problems?
What happens when friend only reacts to his/her problems and is too moody?
Do you keep them as friends because they are good at heart OR do you slowly depart because they drain too much of energy? How far do you go to keep a good friend?
Isn’t friends supposed to be cool – who have moderate or no expectations?
Understand that there may be better things happening in your life, keeping you occupied?
Is not required to be assured everyday that you are there for him/her; sooner or later they will come back to you.
Isn’t a friend supposed to be the happiest soul on earth – if something good happens in one’s life? Rather being not in mood to react to good news.
I believe between friends there should be no formalities like - you called I called, you did not meet, you did not email, you are too busy etc. Touchwood I have good friends, with whom I cannot be in touch with for many years and still they will be there for me. I am not saying that I am person who does not remain in touch for years – but the frequency may go up or down depending upon the circumstances. Which I hope friends should understand.
That’s it, enough thinking for today.
Friends are somebody you can be cool with.
There are no expectations, no hard feelings etc.
But, what happens when a friend always dumps all the negativities on you?
What happens when friend forgets to react to good things happening to you and is only occupied with his/her problems?
What happens when friend only reacts to his/her problems and is too moody?
Do you keep them as friends because they are good at heart OR do you slowly depart because they drain too much of energy? How far do you go to keep a good friend?
Isn’t friends supposed to be cool – who have moderate or no expectations?
Understand that there may be better things happening in your life, keeping you occupied?
Is not required to be assured everyday that you are there for him/her; sooner or later they will come back to you.
Isn’t a friend supposed to be the happiest soul on earth – if something good happens in one’s life? Rather being not in mood to react to good news.
I believe between friends there should be no formalities like - you called I called, you did not meet, you did not email, you are too busy etc. Touchwood I have good friends, with whom I cannot be in touch with for many years and still they will be there for me. I am not saying that I am person who does not remain in touch for years – but the frequency may go up or down depending upon the circumstances. Which I hope friends should understand.
That’s it, enough thinking for today.
Monday, January 29, 2007
Air Travel in India
Air travel in India was a good experience till last year when I travelled Jet and Sahara. With new year's start I travelled with Paramount, Sahara, SpiceJet, GoAir and IndiGo.
Well my review regarding domestic Air Travel especially with -
SpiceJet
GoAir and
IndiGo
is a nightmare.
My advice to people travelling especially with IndiGo is to go 1hour late as all their flights are always 1hrs late. We always talk about Deccan being late and not being on time. But these other no frill airlines have crossed the limit.
First the boarding call is delayed by 15-30mins and then you board the plane.
After boarding the plane, one keeps sitting inside for 30-40mins for god knows what passengers.
So overall - Indian no frill airlines I give a thumbs down.
I only travel through them because I have no other option.
Travelling through no frill airlines is a painful experience, especially if you are one of those very few punctual flyers. Who reach airport on time and check in on time.
Moral of the story: If these airlines cannot get a person from Point A to Point B on time these airlines are useless. They don't solve the purpose of travelling.
Well my review regarding domestic Air Travel especially with -
SpiceJet
GoAir and
IndiGo
is a nightmare.
My advice to people travelling especially with IndiGo is to go 1hour late as all their flights are always 1hrs late. We always talk about Deccan being late and not being on time. But these other no frill airlines have crossed the limit.
First the boarding call is delayed by 15-30mins and then you board the plane.
After boarding the plane, one keeps sitting inside for 30-40mins for god knows what passengers.
So overall - Indian no frill airlines I give a thumbs down.
I only travel through them because I have no other option.
Travelling through no frill airlines is a painful experience, especially if you are one of those very few punctual flyers. Who reach airport on time and check in on time.
Moral of the story: If these airlines cannot get a person from Point A to Point B on time these airlines are useless. They don't solve the purpose of travelling.
Thursday, January 18, 2007
What does being bored does to a normal human being...
Firstly, boredom makes a person blog so that one may spread the infectious boredom to others.
Boredom makes one:
1. Yawn
2. Eat
3. Drink Coffee
4. Stretch
5. Slouch
6. Surf Internet
7. Talk on phone
8. Fall in Love
9. Get married
10. Sleep
11. Prepare a list of all useless things that can be done, to prevent boredom.
12. Roam around
13. Smoke
14. Make an endless list of endless tasks
Yawwwnnn...!!!
Boredom makes one:
1. Yawn
2. Eat
3. Drink Coffee
4. Stretch
5. Slouch
6. Surf Internet
7. Talk on phone
8. Fall in Love
9. Get married
10. Sleep
11. Prepare a list of all useless things that can be done, to prevent boredom.
12. Roam around
13. Smoke
14. Make an endless list of endless tasks
Yawwwnnn...!!!
Tuesday, January 16, 2007
Long time...
It has been long since I Posted on the blog.
First 15 days of this year had been awfully busy. Things are settling down now and it seems that whatever happened in last 15 days will now slowly sink in. As thinking thinker is numb at the moment. About, the new year resolutions - well almost 90% of them are already done ;-)
Well I cannot think of anything more to write about.
Ciao for now!!! Will post more later...
First 15 days of this year had been awfully busy. Things are settling down now and it seems that whatever happened in last 15 days will now slowly sink in. As thinking thinker is numb at the moment. About, the new year resolutions - well almost 90% of them are already done ;-)
Well I cannot think of anything more to write about.
Ciao for now!!! Will post more later...
Thursday, January 04, 2007
2007
Well, 2007 is going on a high which means it will soon start to head downwards; like a roller coaster ride. It goes up and it comes down. Well my Cochin and Chennai trip was good and yielded interesting results - which I will soon be sharing with all. Results which have changed my life from this point onwards.
Today is my last day at present employer and soon I will be moving on to a new company, new people, new profile. Hoping that, so many new things happening in the start of the year marks a good start.
In past 2-3 years 'change' has been a constant factor and that too happeing as if it is on a 5th gear. Meeting new people, seeing new cultures, discovering myself, changing houses (Every 3 munths), Job Profiles, Jobs, Finding love, Travelling. Well, I am enjoying it this ways for now, and would like it to continue for some more time. Lets see what future holds for me.
Wednesday, January 03, 2007
What is it... in the air?
What is it in the air... that I am so excited...
What is going on that I am so restless...
I am not such a good poet, but I think you get the flow of things...
[Note for people who think in double meanings, this is not what you are thinking - got it. So make no comments of such nature.]
Wednesday, December 27, 2006
New Year - I am excited
New Years Eve!!! Hmmm...
Coming year has so many things already set to happen. Some by chance, some planned and some spontaneously planned. Hopefully plans will excute as planned.
Last to last, new years was a bad year with Tsunami and me and my friends donated their new year celebration money. Let us hope nothing similar happens this year. And last year I was too busy to think about anything regarding life, celebration or anything. While, this new years resolution is to spend some time living and not working; and travelling across the globe. Hopefully I will be able to travel as much as I am planning to.
Wishing a very happy and prosperous new year to all, who visit my blog. I won't be posting anything till 2nd Jan, 2007 as I will be travelling.
Kitne Ajeeb Rishtey Hein Yahan Par
Looking back at last two years, it makes me think; how weird are relations between human beings. How one connects with another unknown person in a minute and how the very next minute they are bitter enemies.
Does setbacks like these, makes one surround himself/herself in a shell. Technically speaking should one become Introvert?
It is so strange that once you are best of best friends and then over years something happens and then you have nothing to with that person. What makes this happen?
- Too much informality?
- Lack of communication?
- Taking another person for granted?
- Greed?
Well, there can be multiple reasons. But, human mind is most difficult to understand. Well I think title of this post will always remain a mystery.
Tuesday, December 26, 2006
Tuesday, December 19, 2006
Hai Mera Dil
Movie Name: Josh (2000)
Singer: Alka Yagnik, Udit Narayan
Music Director: Anu Malik
Lyrics: Sameer
Year: 2000
Producer: Venus
Director: Mansoor Khan
Actors: Aishwarya Rai, Chandrachur Singh, Priya Gill, Shah Rukh Khan, Sharad Kapoor
Theme: Love
Itna Pyaar Hai Yeh Pyaar, Pyaara Pyaara
Hua Hai Pehli Baar, Hota Hai Ek Baar
Phir Na Hoga....Yeh Dubaara...
Hai Mera Dil, Churake Le Gaya
Churane Wala, Mera Katil...
Hai Mera Dil, Churake Le Gayi,
Churane Wali, Meri Katil...
Yeh Dil Tujhpe Aaya Hai, Aate Aate
Darde Dil To Jaate Hai, Jaate Jaate
Jaage Hain, Soye Hain, Hum Dono Khoye Hain
Kaisi Tanhai Hai, Masti Si Chhaayi Hai
Yeh Mausam Hai, Pyaar Ke Kaabil
Hai Mera Dil, Churake Le Gaya
Churane Wala, Mera Katil...
Ab To Kaate Na Kate, Pyaasi Raate
Kuch Kuch Hota Hai Sun Ke, Aisi Baate
Bechaini Sehne De, Palko Mein Rehne De
Teri Baahon Mein Hai, Teri Raahon Mein Hai
Jaanejaana Meri Manzil
Hai Mera Dil, Churake Le Gayi,
Churane Wali, Meri Katil...
Hai Mera Dil, Churake Le Gaya
Churane Wala, Mera Katil...
Itna Pyaar Hai Yeh Pyaar, Pyaara Pyaara
Hua Hai Pehli Baar, Hota Hai Ek Baar
Phir Na Hoga....Yeh Dubaara...
Wednesday, December 13, 2006
Civilization(s)
We study about Egyptian Civilization, Mayas, Indus valley and many more. This makes me wonder:
What will our civilization will be called?
Are we one civiliaztion across the globe?
Are we multiple civilizations?
Will we be survived by future generations to be explored?
Can we be called a civilization? Are we civilized?
I am not worried about the first three questions. What makes me wonder is the 4th question. All the civilizations before us vanished. But, our civilization is the only one which has the potential to destroy the whole planet. And, we are doing that job pretty well.
If we consider all the world as one civilization then, we will be the most advanced and the largest civilization on earth, ever. But, will we be remembered, explored etc. Will there be people to explore us, afte we vanish?
Or more interesting, if we manage to ruin and destroy our planet and before that we colonise other planets in the solar system. What kind of civilization will we develop there?
I do not know where I want to go with this post. But these were just few of those random questions and ideas one gets :-)
Friday, December 08, 2006
Classic Tale (Wants and needs)
Read the story
http://in.rediff.com/getahead/2005/sep/28don.htm
Jagger almost got it right with that fantastic song: You always want what you can't get
http://in.rediff.com/getahead/2005/sep/28don.htm
Jagger almost got it right with that fantastic song: You always want what you can't get
Sunday, November 26, 2006
Ring-Ring sorry I am busy
As the economic boom continues and people are getting more and more ambitious day by day; if you sit back and take a bird’s eye view of the situation – one may see that things are not as they seem to be. The fact is people are getting busier day by day; they have no time to sit back and relax.
To be frank, today’s working youth has no time to; even attend phone calls (that are not work related) most of the time. A typical workday starts at 7:30-8AM from getting ready to work and reaching office by 9. This ends by 6-8PM depending upon the workload, plus the traveling distance. Rest of the time is spent either on internet, TV, relaxing, having food etc. This problem is further compounded if you are staying with your parents. Then there is absolutely no time et al. However, people staying independently still have some time to touchbase with friends etc. But those times are so late in the day that one may only touchbase with other people in similar situation like them (Other people who are living independently). Well this leads to only casual relationships or friends and no real relationships or real friends. This takes its toll in the long run in many ways. There is very little or no scope for having a friends circle outside your office colleagues.
Well this is one problem; there are more problems that are slowly cropping up – like health related issues, stress etc. We seriously need to look for more venues for improving our lives. Life is not just work, but many other things. Fun and relaxation does not mean partying out late, binge drinking, taking dope etc. These methods of fun and relaxation often lead to feeling more tired and stressed out than he/she was previously.
Conclusion: We must seriously try to pause, our fast-paced life and take out time to reflect upon what are we doing and where are we heading? How this all is affecting your personal life?
Discussing all the issues and providing solutions to these issues is out of scope for this post and may be this blog.
To be frank, today’s working youth has no time to; even attend phone calls (that are not work related) most of the time. A typical workday starts at 7:30-8AM from getting ready to work and reaching office by 9. This ends by 6-8PM depending upon the workload, plus the traveling distance. Rest of the time is spent either on internet, TV, relaxing, having food etc. This problem is further compounded if you are staying with your parents. Then there is absolutely no time et al. However, people staying independently still have some time to touchbase with friends etc. But those times are so late in the day that one may only touchbase with other people in similar situation like them (Other people who are living independently). Well this leads to only casual relationships or friends and no real relationships or real friends. This takes its toll in the long run in many ways. There is very little or no scope for having a friends circle outside your office colleagues.
Well this is one problem; there are more problems that are slowly cropping up – like health related issues, stress etc. We seriously need to look for more venues for improving our lives. Life is not just work, but many other things. Fun and relaxation does not mean partying out late, binge drinking, taking dope etc. These methods of fun and relaxation often lead to feeling more tired and stressed out than he/she was previously.
Conclusion: We must seriously try to pause, our fast-paced life and take out time to reflect upon what are we doing and where are we heading? How this all is affecting your personal life?
Discussing all the issues and providing solutions to these issues is out of scope for this post and may be this blog.
Thursday, November 23, 2006
Nice Story - Every little counts! Especially for the one whose life gets affected by it.
This was FWDed to me by one of my friends:
A man was walking down the beach at sunset. As he walked along, he saw another man in the distance. He noticed this man kept leaning down, picking up something and throwing it out into the water, again and again. As he approached even closer, he noticed that the man was picking up starfish that had been washed up on the beach. He was throwing them back into the water, one by one.
Puzzled, he approached the man and said, "Good Evening. I was wondering what you are doing."
"I'm throwing these starfish back into the ocean. You see, it's low tide and all these starfish have been washed up onto the shore. If, I don't throw them back into the ocean, they'll die up here from lack of oxygen."
"But, there must be thousands of starfish on this beach. You can't possible get to all of them. And, don't you realize this is probably happening on hundreds of beaches all up and down this coast. Can't you see that you can't possibly make a difference?"
The man bent down and picked up yet another starfish, and threw it back into the ocean. With a smile he replied, "Made a difference to that one !!!"
A man was walking down the beach at sunset. As he walked along, he saw another man in the distance. He noticed this man kept leaning down, picking up something and throwing it out into the water, again and again. As he approached even closer, he noticed that the man was picking up starfish that had been washed up on the beach. He was throwing them back into the water, one by one.
Puzzled, he approached the man and said, "Good Evening. I was wondering what you are doing."
"I'm throwing these starfish back into the ocean. You see, it's low tide and all these starfish have been washed up onto the shore. If, I don't throw them back into the ocean, they'll die up here from lack of oxygen."
"But, there must be thousands of starfish on this beach. You can't possible get to all of them. And, don't you realize this is probably happening on hundreds of beaches all up and down this coast. Can't you see that you can't possibly make a difference?"
The man bent down and picked up yet another starfish, and threw it back into the ocean. With a smile he replied, "Made a difference to that one !!!"
Thursday, November 09, 2006
Search for Perfection - The perfect job!
Our entire effort, from the day we enter the education system, is targeted towards getting that dream job. Though the dreams keep changing as we mature, the underlying principle remains the same – a job which we enjoy doing.
When we start our first job the illusions of a ‘perfect job’ usually vanish within the first few months and we are forced to admit that there is no such thing as a ‘dream job’. For the fortunate few who are able to get that elusive ‘dream job’, stick with your current job and stop reading this article!
Normally all jobs have a positive as well as a negative aspect and if we are forced to define the concept of a ‘dream job’ it would be a job, with as few negatives to it as possible, which we enjoy doing. Read More ...
When we start our first job the illusions of a ‘perfect job’ usually vanish within the first few months and we are forced to admit that there is no such thing as a ‘dream job’. For the fortunate few who are able to get that elusive ‘dream job’, stick with your current job and stop reading this article!
Normally all jobs have a positive as well as a negative aspect and if we are forced to define the concept of a ‘dream job’ it would be a job, with as few negatives to it as possible, which we enjoy doing. Read More ...
Tuesday, October 17, 2006
Jaago India Jaago - Wake Up!!!
Ques: How ridiculously inefficient our government is?
Answer: Farmers in UP who are dying of hunger, receive payments of ridiculous amounts such as 3Rs, 10Rs.
Even if officials had to do a scam and gobble up money sanctioned for the purpose, they should have thought about what are they doing, giving 3Rs, 10Rs, what were they thinking?
What we should do?
Stop giving salary to all bureaucracy in UP, Mulayam Singh and his cabinet. Then make them survive on 3Rs per year. Let us see how well they do?
I was recently reading an article on how citizens in west have so much faith in their governments. In India with such incidents happening everyday, how can we have similar faith in state bodies?
No wonder why, many corporate(s) get roads built on their own. People of a colony employ own security guards and get street lights installed at their own expense.
I write this many times and I write it again, for god sake, next time you go voting only vote for a person who is educated and has performed in the past. Use your brains India!!!
Only once in every 5 years use it for your own use. Do not give it for rent to get outsourced work.
Sheesh!!!
Answer: Farmers in UP who are dying of hunger, receive payments of ridiculous amounts such as 3Rs, 10Rs.
Even if officials had to do a scam and gobble up money sanctioned for the purpose, they should have thought about what are they doing, giving 3Rs, 10Rs, what were they thinking?
What we should do?
Stop giving salary to all bureaucracy in UP, Mulayam Singh and his cabinet. Then make them survive on 3Rs per year. Let us see how well they do?
I was recently reading an article on how citizens in west have so much faith in their governments. In India with such incidents happening everyday, how can we have similar faith in state bodies?
No wonder why, many corporate(s) get roads built on their own. People of a colony employ own security guards and get street lights installed at their own expense.
I write this many times and I write it again, for god sake, next time you go voting only vote for a person who is educated and has performed in the past. Use your brains India!!!
Only once in every 5 years use it for your own use. Do not give it for rent to get outsourced work.
Sheesh!!!
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